“Compromises” or “be loyal with your self”

Thoughts are flowing in my mind. There is a big crowd there. I wish to express them better. Especially in English, which is not my native language.

I think about being honest with my self, what it means, and how much it can cost? I’m not living on a desert island, but in society.  It has its rules. But how many compromises I can make to be still ME? And how much I can fight for being me to not become an outsider.

I made a list of priorities in my mind. The list of values, which I can’t resignate from, no matter what. And list of things, who are less important. It can change with age, and with getting life experience. The matter is, how I feel, when I make compromises. If I don’t feel comfortable, but like betraying myself , it’ll mean, that I went to far in compromising.

Caring for self comfort in being you doesn’t mean an egoism, but rather self-respect. Being, who you are not to please others can’t make you happy. Everybody has right to be happy, so you too.

Make compromises for people dear to you, but when they are ready to do the same for you. Don’t sell your self for nothing. If somebody loves you, he will let you live in agreement with your own legend. If not, why to please them?

Tell people dear to you about your desires, dreams, needs. Sometimes, they just don’t know, what can make you happy. If you keep silence, they’ll think, that all is fine.  They laugh at what you say? Find somebody, who won’t. Simple! Don’t stay with somebody from fear of being lonely, because the worst kind of loneliness is that one in relationship.


About Sabina Brave

special & unique, one in a million ;) theraphist and writer passionate with human nature.

Posted on January 23, 2012, in I couldn't say it better, My Blogs and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 22 Comments.

  1. Amen to all of the above honey 🙂

  2. Ah yes, the old outward yes, inside no dilemma…I’ve been there. But not anymore. If I say yes, it is yes for my own self as well. Though I do compromise with some of my family and friends who care enough about me to do the same, and do not walk all over me when I do.
    Be true to self, and others will respect you/me/us for it.

    Great post, Sabina!
    Have a lovely rest of the day!
    Hugs, xx

  3. For not being your native language your grasp of English seems almost better than mine, Ms. B! And English is my native language! You do a great job with it!

  4. It’s important to be true to yourself.

    Your English may not be perfect, but it is quite good and what you mean is almost always clear.

  5. A great posting Sabina
    and I am enjoying these
    more detailed offerings,
    you are quite the wicked
    story writer, and wicked
    means nice wicked, but
    you already know that 🙂

    Have a wonderful rest of
    evening and a fantastic
    Thursday also 🙂 😉

    Androgoth XXx

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