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Gift of love

It happened some time ago. I don’t know, why I thought about it right now. Maybe it’s “the proper time” to share that story.

Last eight years I was juror in court. Four years in criminal court, next four in family court. I didn’t apply for the next  cadence. I was tired from watching all those mischievous people hurting own kids. I couldn’t sleep at nights. But time to time there were cases, thanks which I was getting back my faith in goodness of human nature. The story will be about one of those cases.

There was the young couple. They decided to adopt some child. They went through all process, qualification, the course for candidates for substitute parents, and they took new-born child from the hospital, whose mother decided to leave her (it was the girl).  And finally they went to the court to become parents in law.

It was really pleasant to watch those young people happiness. Woman couldn’t have kids. Mean if she tried some treatment, she could have some own child, but her husband didn’t bother her with that idea. He loved her so much, that he cared for her more, than for having his own child.  He loved her since childhood. He said: “I knew since childhood, that she’ll be my wife. “

Judge had to ask, why they decided to adopt a child, and was it full  conscious decision? It was beautiful, what that young woman said: “When I was a child I decided, that if I have such possibility,  I’ll adopt some child. My friend was taken to the Orphans House. Children shouldn’t live in such places. “

When judge asked, what will happen, if they get their own child. They both said the same: “That little girl is our child. She will be always our first child.”

Judge, me, and second juror, we all had wet eyes. All that was so beautiful.

After judge announced, that they are full parents now, they were so happy. Such moments are worth living. Not every day we can watch so real and beautiful love.

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Memories of childhood

So true… hehe

Lttle evil angels – power of wise love

I love children, and I like working with them. Especially with kids about whom others say, that they are evil, bad, and lost for the world.

There is in one of my groups 5 years old girl. I shouldn’t let her coming, because I work with elder kids, but she needed so much some positive model of adult people, that I let her to be in my class.

That little girl, Klaudia, is like little devil. She is fighting with elder kids, she is using vulgar language. But not in my presence. In my presence she is not different from other kids. Especially that I work with kids from pathological families, and they all are naughty, and hyperactive.

When I started going to her village, she was 4 years old. She was always naughty and dirty. Mean her clothes, hands, and face were always dirty. When I let her to be  in my class, she changed. She is coming in new clothes taken on by herself. When her hands and face are dirty she is going to toilet to wash them. It’s funny, because she is washing only the part in front of face, but parts close to ears and under chin are still dirty 🙂 Her 2 years older brother is similar to her. Also little “devil”.

Children from that group were angry with me, that I let Klaudia and Mateusz to be in their group. They are asking me often: “Why do you defend them always miss Sabina?” I’m answering mostly: “because nobody else does”.

When children are hearing always, that they are bad, evil, and with no any value, they even don’t try to be better. For what, if nobody wants to see anything good in them?

Children need wise love. Warmth, understanding, but also some rules, and consequence in respecting such rules. We can’t change them every day. Especially under children pressure. Kids need something constant in their life. They will cry hearing “no” again and again, but then they mostly accept fact, that they can’t have all, what they want. They are demanding new toy, and we are buying it… and soon they want another one. In real they need our attention, our time, and our love much more than new toy.

Wise love doesn’t mean, that we should make every dream of our children come true. It means, that we should lead them wisely to adult life. After years they’ll forget all toys, even the best ones, but they will remember our hugs, our smiles, our stories. Even if they forget words, and situations, they will remember always, how we made them feel.

Inspirational quotations about children

Kids can be really sweet.  And sometimes they can understand much more, than adult people. because their minds are open, and not limited by life experience. Yes, our life experience can be obstacle in learning new things. because we are analysing and judging. Kids are taking all.

Inspiration to this article was son of my best friend. When he was 4 years old, he wanted to engage me to work.   He said: “Aunty, can you help me to make an order with my toys? I’ll pay you half-dollar.” “Why you want to pay me? I’ll help you with pleasure” – I said. “Because you have problems with finding a job, and you need a money.” 


“Children can teach adult people 3 things: to have a joy without a reason, to be busy with something all the time, and to demand – with all power – what they want.”  ( Paolo Coelho)

“A child’s life is like a piece of paper on which every person leaves a mark.”
Robert A. Heinlein

“He, who teaches children, learns more than they do”  (German proverb)

“If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders.” (Abigail Van Buren)

“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”  (James Arthur Baldwin)

“I don’t know why I did it, I don’t know why I enjoyed it, and I don’t know why I’ll do it again.”
Bart Simpson

“If you must hold yourself up to your children as an object lesson, hold yourself up as a warning and not as an example.”
George Bernard Shaw

“A child can ask questions that a wise man cannot answer.”
Author Unknown

“We have children because we want immortality and this is the most reliable way of getting it.”  (Woodrow Wyatt)

“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.”  (Pablo Picasso)

Kids go where there is excitement. They stay where there is love. (Zig Ziglar)

No one has yet realized the wealth of sympathy, the kindness and generosity hidden in the soul of a child. The effort of every true education should be to unlock that treasure. (Emma Goldman)

The father who does not teach his son his duties is equally guilty with the son who neglects them. ( Confucius)

We are responsible for who our kids will become. We have to be the best teachers for them. Don’t blame them for being bad students, because maybe you are bad teacher. You don’t like, what I said? It’s your right… but think since a while, that maybe I am right.  This while can change your kids life. And yours as well.

Little miracles

While surfing through the net I found hundreds beautiful pictures. Many of them were posted as comments on social sites.

I like alot Anne Gedes pictures. It’s amazing, how she can take pictures of kids. On her works they really look like little miracles.