“Compromises” or “be loyal with your self”
Thoughts are flowing in my mind. There is a big crowd there. I wish to express them better. Especially in English, which is not my native language.
I think about being honest with my self, what it means, and how much it can cost? I’m not living on a desert island, but in society. It has its rules. But how many compromises I can make to be still ME? And how much I can fight for being me to not become an outsider.
I made a list of priorities in my mind. The list of values, which I can’t resignate from, no matter what. And list of things, who are less important. It can change with age, and with getting life experience. The matter is, how I feel, when I make compromises. If I don’t feel comfortable, but like betraying myself , it’ll mean, that I went to far in compromising.
Caring for self comfort in being you doesn’t mean an egoism, but rather self-respect. Being, who you are not to please others can’t make you happy. Everybody has right to be happy, so you too.
Make compromises for people dear to you, but when they are ready to do the same for you. Don’t sell your self for nothing. If somebody loves you, he will let you live in agreement with your own legend. If not, why to please them?
Tell people dear to you about your desires, dreams, needs. Sometimes, they just don’t know, what can make you happy. If you keep silence, they’ll think, that all is fine. They laugh at what you say? Find somebody, who won’t. Simple! Don’t stay with somebody from fear of being lonely, because the worst kind of loneliness is that one in relationship.
Posted on January 23, 2012, in I couldn't say it better, My Blogs and tagged being happy in life, being yourself, faith, hope, inner peace, learning, learning from past experience, life, love, people, positive attitude, self-respect, wisdom, wise choices. Bookmark the permalink. 22 Comments.
Amen to all of the above honey 🙂
Thank you MC 🙂
Ah yes, the old outward yes, inside no dilemma…I’ve been there. But not anymore. If I say yes, it is yes for my own self as well. Though I do compromise with some of my family and friends who care enough about me to do the same, and do not walk all over me when I do.
Be true to self, and others will respect you/me/us for it.
Great post, Sabina!
Have a lovely rest of the day!
Hugs, xx
Thank you Debbie 🙂
Exactly: “Be true to self, and others will respect you/me/us for it.”
Have a lovely rest of the day Debbie 🙂
Hugs,
xx
For not being your native language your grasp of English seems almost better than mine, Ms. B! And English is my native language! You do a great job with it!
🙂
Thank you for making me smiling Mr. SIG 🙂 It’s really nice to hear, that my English isn’t so bad. Especially, that i don’t like using dictionary. 😉
It’s important to be true to yourself.
Your English may not be perfect, but it is quite good and what you mean is almost always clear.
Thank you, Binky 🙂 It’s for sure far from perfection 😉
You have a cute accent that shows through in your writings 🙂 What’s not to like?
Thak you MC 🙂 I thought, that accent can be heard only 😉
🙂 it’s a gift what can I say LOL 🙂 I hear what you write. Does that make sense? Man I have to go get ready for work! It’s already 7:15! AAAAAAAAAGH!
It sounds a bit “magical” 🙂
Have a good day MC 🙂
LOL 🙂 I got’s da powa of Magik baybe! LOL 🙂 You have a very nice evening. It’s evening there right? Okay I have to work and be good…
OMG! So you are… I mean fairy 😛
It’s 4 p.m, so it’s afternoon.
As Andro says – be good, but not too good 😉 🙂
LOL 🙂 I’ll be gooood… insert evil grin. Hell I’m always well behaved. Maybe I shouldn’t be good. (wiggles eyebrows at screen)
Be good. Stay on the side of light 🙂 Don’t go on the side of darkness… or you become Lord Vader. hehehe. He wasn’t much sexy… 😉
Bbwwaaahahahaha! But I look really cute in a black hooded cape … aaawww man! LOL 🙂 Nah … I like the light too, no matter how tempting some people can make the dark look for a little while, I gotta be me and evil isn’t completely my nature.
I know. I wanted only to make you smiling 🙂
Keep being you 🙂
A great posting Sabina
and I am enjoying these
more detailed offerings,
you are quite the wicked
story writer, and wicked
means nice wicked, but
you already know that 🙂
Have a wonderful rest of
evening and a fantastic
Thursday also 🙂 😉
Androgoth XXx
Yes, I know, that is in good sense. 🙂
Thank you for so nice opinion about my writtigs. 🙂
Have a wonderful rest of the evening, and fantastic Thursday 🙂
XXx
You are very welcome Sabina
and I mean what I say about the
postings that you are writing 🙂
Androgoth XXx
Thank you once again 🙂
XXx